oneofthegirls said:
You misunderstand me. It is not in the speaker's intent but it is in what I hear. Bless your heart softens me and makes me a better listener. I therefore include the speaker. I become the inclusive one.
ctrzaska said:
author said:
Well to tell the truth, I miss Strawberry. If ever anyone could start a food fight on a perfectly calm summer afternoon it was Straw. And he could create new identities at the drop of a hat.
Colorado............color red............Strawberry. He was like a character from Batman.
The irony in this post is simply killing me.
oneofthegirls said:
You misunderstand me. It is not in the speaker's intent but it is in what I hear. Bless your heart softens me and makes me a better listener. I therefore include the speaker. I become the inclusive one.
ml1 said:
"You calling me an idiot?"
"No, I'm just sayin'..."
seaweed said:
oneofthegirls said:
You misunderstand me. It is not in the speaker's intent but it is in what I hear. Bless your heart softens me and makes me a better listener. I therefore include the speaker. I become the inclusive one.
Bless your heart @oneofthegirls, but you should have started that post with -- "With all due respect you misunderstand me."
casey said:
oneofthegirls said:
You misunderstand me. It is not in the speaker's intent but it is in what I hear. Bless your heart softens me and makes me a better listener. I therefore include the speaker. I become the inclusive one.
You're a better person than me. Even if it's done politely, I'm not inclined to react positively to being condescendingly called an idiot.
hankzona said:
marylago said:
I can never figure out the alternate usernames. When someone posts that "so-and-so" is now "so-and-so," I'm, like, doh!
I used to be buffalojoe...or did I used to be Soul29? Cant remember now.
That has never been my impression and I've lived in both places.casey said:
In the northeast, "with all due respect" is the equivalent to "bless your heart" in the south. It's a nice way of calling someone an idiot.
j_r said:
Cookie-bearing grandmothers excluded, of course! (To me, "with all due respect" is one of those filler figures of speech that mean the opposite of what is said, not unlike "to be perfectly honest." If the speaker is being respectful or honest it would go without saying.)
More "soft" insults here:
http://www.countryoutfitter.com/style/southern-insults/
sac said:
Wow! j r and I posted at the same time with entirely different interpretations. Maybe it is a regional thing because I never had any such negative vibes from hearing "Bless your heart".
j_r said:
Anyone who uses "bless your heart" knows that the phrase is widely received as "eff you."
Honestly, I don't think I've EVER said it. But I've sure had it said to me and I can promise you that wasn't what was meant on those occasions.j_r said:
Maybe I should rephrase. Anyone who uses "bless your heart" should know that the phrase is widely received as "eff you." (See links above.)
BaseballMom said:
Having lived in both places as well --
"With all due respect . . ." signals that you are about to say something very disrespectful to the other person using a civil tone of voice. If a lawyer says this when addressing a judge. . . .hold your breath. It's like saying "I'm now going to tell you how you're being a moron here."
"Bless her heart" or "God love her" is a passive-aggressive coda to an insulting statement about another person used in an effort to show that although you just trashed somebody, you're a good Christian who would never trash talk another person. Although you just did. I'm just sayin', is all.
mrincredible said:
I think if I ever found myself losing control enough on maple it online to get banned, I should probably move on completely. Meaning it's time to leave the whole thing behind.
RobB said:
marylago said:
ctrzaska said:
author said:
Well to tell the truth, I miss Strawberry. If ever anyone could start a food fight on a perfectly calm summer afternoon it was Straw. And he could create new identities at the drop of a hat.
Colorado............color red............Strawberry. He was like a character from Batman.
The irony in this post is simply killing me.
Really? I am always the last to know..................
What is....that suppose...d to mean....?
tjohn said:
mrincredible said:
I think if I ever found myself losing control enough on maple it online to get banned, I should probably move on completely. Meaning it's time to leave the whole thing behind.
I agree complete. Same considerations apply to MaplewoodOnline, too.
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Not in my world, unless they are carrying like jersey boy suggests. With all due respect automatically shuts me out from their world.
Bless your heart is inclusive. I like it. How can I hear those words with all due respect and not hear I am an outsider?