spqr said:
I work in HR/Talent Acquisition...your best bet is to pass the resume to the recruiter of the position with a disclaimer that the resume was passed to you and you don't know the person first hand. This way it won't come off as a recommendation. Believe it or not, generally, it is no small feat to get the right talent in the door and it takes quite a bit of time and resources to accomplish that. Passing the candidate to the recruiter most likely will be appreciated and then the process of candidate evaluation will take over and if she's a good fit she'll be hired and if not they will move on to the next candidate.
Student_Council said:
I don't get the notion of passing on a resume with a disclaimer. To me passing on a resume represents at least an implicit endorsement, otherwise what's the value to HR? The HR person can just go and pull a resume off Monster.com and it's essentially the same thing.
Student_Council said:
Hmm, interesting -- I guess my experience is with companies that have the HR infrastructure to find candidates with the right experience/skillz on paper, and the value-add in passing along a resume is the trust factor, ie the implicit endorsement of knowing the candidate personally, or at least knowing someone personally who knows the candidate personally. To me just forwarding a resume without an endorsement is like doing HR's job for them.
spqr said:
Passing the candidate to the recruiter most likely will be appreciated and then the process of candidate evaluation will take over and if she's a good fit she'll be hired and if not they will move on to the next candidate.
Student_Council said:
In other words, if I pass a resume along with the right specs but make clear I'm not endorsing, if the person turns out to be a fiasco I'd still feel at least somewhat culpable. And if I was HR I might think, thanks but please don't do me any more favors.
So as an employee I'm either gonna endorse someone I feel comfortable about, or mind my own business..
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1) it could be seen as presumptuous, since I'm still considered relatively new here myself (been here less than a year and a half).
2) if the girl gets hired and then crashes and burns, people might remember that she was a "friend" of mine.
3) I really don't like being asked to give an implicit endorsement of someone who is a complete stranger to me. Sis is protesting, "What, my word isn't good enough?" In this case, I don't feel that it is.
What to do? Is there any other gesture I can make that will get Sis off my back while safeguarding my own position and reputation? Will I be safer if I give the girl's resume to HR rather than the actual hiring department?
(Wish the "Work" category was open for questions like this.)