mrincredible said:
suzyc said:
There are cameras in the school.
And I'm sure the miscreants know where they are and how to avoid their gaze. I can't imagine the entire school is blanketed with surveillance cameras.
Do they capture audio or just video?
Kids who misbehave like this are pretty adept at finding ways to do it outside of adult surveillance. Although it's amazing from cleg's description if the boys are following them in the hallways.
I hate stories like this one. Girls and women should be able to live their lives in school, on the street, at work, wherever without fear of being sexually harassed. I have a 6-year-old girl and it seems to me that sexism and misogyny is a growing problem, even though we're here in the 21st century. When I hear about this behavior in teenagers I am dismayed ... the problem just keeps perpetuating itself. These kids are hearing this somewhere and repeating the behavior.
Have you considered attending a BOE meeting with your daughter (and maybe some of the other victims) and having them address the board about this problem during the open comment section as a first step? If there were a few young women who were willing to stand up and describe their experiences in front of the Board, in a recorded public meeting, maybe that puts the school administration and community on notice. I think as others have noted above that the next step would be contacting an attorney or one of the specialty organizations to begin a formal process seeking remediation of the problem. I can see reversing the order of either of those steps, and some place like Garden State Equality is a lot more qualified to dispense advice than anyone here.
I'm not sure involving the police at this stage is a good idea. I understand these actions can lead to criminal charges. But I don't think the police making arrests of juveniles will necessarily help improve the atmosphere which gives rise to this kind of behavior. A 14-year-old boy is more likely to develop an even more poisonous sexist mindset if they get arrested on the word of a classmate. If there's a chance to correct the behavior without criminal charges, I think that's in everyone's best interest.
mjh said:
knowlton said:
dg64
Curious why you don't think parents should be called?
That's a role for the school, not the parent of the bullied child.
tjohn said:
If I knew the parents and knew the kids, I might discuss with the parents. Otherwise, I would not.
sac said:
I would NOT take the victim(s) to "testify" publicly to the BOE about their harassment. (That sort of thing should not be expected of ANY victim of harrassment and least of all at middle school age.)
mod said:
Agree with both Sac and AfA. Make an appointment now with the super and indicate what is going on. Be prepared to provide what steps you took in previous complaint and what response was. Have emails etc and be specific in new more recent incident . Who was there , what time it occurred what hallway . What adults were around and who was told. It will be escalated up to the anti bullying specialist who is the district council if you do this. It should have been handled upon your first complaint but now you go in demanding action.
mod said:
Who is the HIB person at MMS - Anyone know? Thanks Dg64.
Jackson_Fusion said:
Specific to your comments on harming an offender- it is NOT for administrators to determine what the proper corrective course is for the harassers and assaulters. They are singularly incapable of determining what is right, and given the aforementioned conflicts mentioned, they should, and legally are obligated, FOR THIS VERY REASON, to refer criminal activity to the legal system, which IS responsible for determining the proper course of action, be it rehabilitative, protective of others, or punitive.
mrincredible said:
All right, consider my run for Board of Education over.
cleg, there's lots of good information posted to this thread, none of it in any of my posts.
DaveSchmidt said:
Jackson_Fusion said:
Specific to your comments on harming an offender- it is NOT for administrators to determine what the proper corrective course is for the harassers and assaulters. They are singularly incapable of determining what is right, and given the aforementioned conflicts mentioned, they should, and legally are obligated, FOR THIS VERY REASON, to refer criminal activity to the legal system, which IS responsible for determining the proper course of action, be it rehabilitative, protective of others, or punitive.
Are you sure this is correct? Title IX requires schools to investigate sexual harassment and rape, but isn't the point of contention on college campuses, for example, their leeway to handle the cases on their own without reporting them to the criminal authorities?
Jackson_Fusion said:
Title IX is federal. I linked the appropriate NJ info in an earlier post.
knowlton said:
I'm say call the parent of the kids who are doing the bullying. Desperate times call for desperate measures.
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And I'm sure the miscreants know where they are and how to avoid their gaze. I can't imagine the entire school is blanketed with surveillance cameras.
Do they capture audio or just video?
Kids who misbehave like this are pretty adept at finding ways to do it outside of adult surveillance. Although it's amazing from cleg's description if the boys are following them in the hallways.
I hate stories like this one. Girls and women should be able to live their lives in school, on the street, at work, wherever without fear of being sexually harassed. I have a 6-year-old girl and it seems to me that sexism and misogyny is a growing problem, even though we're here in the 21st century. When I hear about this behavior in teenagers I am dismayed ... the problem just keeps perpetuating itself. These kids are hearing this somewhere and repeating the behavior.
Have you considered attending a BOE meeting with your daughter (and maybe some of the other victims) and having them address the board about this problem during the open comment section as a first step? If there were a few young women who were willing to stand up and describe their experiences in front of the Board, in a recorded public meeting, maybe that puts the school administration and community on notice. I think as others have noted above that the next step would be contacting an attorney or one of the specialty organizations to begin a formal process seeking remediation of the problem. I can see reversing the order of either of those steps, and some place like Garden State Equality is a lot more qualified to dispense advice than anyone here.
I'm not sure involving the police at this stage is a good idea. I understand these actions can lead to criminal charges. But I don't think the police making arrests of juveniles will necessarily help improve the atmosphere which gives rise to this kind of behavior. A 14-year-old boy is more likely to develop an even more poisonous sexist mindset if they get arrested on the word of a classmate. If there's a chance to correct the behavior without criminal charges, I think that's in everyone's best interest.