Not sure how you read it to mean that. What I get from it is that ALL bullying is bad and should not be tolerated.Jackson_Fusion said:
lizziecat said:
Jackson Fusion:
Fat shaming is not "just obnoxious silliness." It is bullying, the same as any other bullying, and causes just as much pain and permanent psychological damage as shaming on the basis of race or sexual orientation or religion.
Our goals, as decent human beings, should be to eliminate all bullying, and all behaviors that cause pain to others, not condone some bullying because we think that "people should be ashamed, but aren't."
Shame on you.
That's what you've gotten out of this thread? That people who let women get harassed are being bullied?
sac said:
Not sure how you read it to mean that. What I get from it is that ALL bullying is bad and should not be tolerated.Jackson_Fusion said:
lizziecat said:
Jackson Fusion:
Fat shaming is not "just obnoxious silliness." It is bullying, the same as any other bullying, and causes just as much pain and permanent psychological damage as shaming on the basis of race or sexual orientation or religion.
Our goals, as decent human beings, should be to eliminate all bullying, and all behaviors that cause pain to others, not condone some bullying because we think that "people should be ashamed, but aren't."
Shame on you.
That's what you've gotten out of this thread? That people who let women get harassed are being bullied?
finnegan said:
I don't think that you need an attorney at this point, but would encourage you to put the complaint in writing and send to principal while cc'ing everyone up the chain (MS anti-bullying person, acting superintendent, district's attorney.) I think it would help to quote exactly what is being said to your daughter and friends, include the frequency of the harassment, be clear to label this behavior as harassment based on gender that creates a hostile school environment, and absolutely include that you have reported this behavior before and nothing was done to address it. State and federal laws are clear on the school's obligation to address this. There are good resources here: http://www.state.nj.us/education/students/safety/behavior/hib/ and also here: http://www.stopbullying.gov/laws/new-jersey.html See especially the Guidance for Parents at the first link. Good luck. Your daughter should not have to put up with this.
callista said:
While I was flipping out completely, reading this thread, I made sure that my son was VERY clear on what was acceptable behavior toward females, and what was not. He already knows, of course, but my outrage made quite an impression, as well. I also told him that it is his responsibility to make his opinions known immediately if he sees anyone he is friendly with behaving like that. They do have cameras, and in places the kids are not aware of, as we just found out last week in another matter, so maybe done of these incidents are on video. Good luck, and good job raising a strong daughter!
AliGrant said:
SGW said:
Unfortunately, our community also has our share of some really troubled youth.
And it starts with the parents. That is why I don't think that talking to the parents would necessarily help.
I remember at 8th grade graduation the parents were clearly asked not to applaud or cheer when their child's name was called but wait until the end. It was reiterated after the first parent disregarded the request. A small but notable number of parents completely disregarded the request and yelled and clapped with gusto. Complete disrespect for "authority"
Many of those were parents of kids who were known to have been in trouble at some point. No wonder...
Not to drift, but... http://www.cnn.com/2015/06/03/us/graduation-cheering-arrest-warrant/
ParticleMan said:
AliGrant said:Not to drift, but... http://www.cnn.com/2015/06/03/us/graduation-cheering-arrest-warrant/
SGW said:
Unfortunately, our community also has our share of some really troubled youth.
And it starts with the parents. That is why I don't think that talking to the parents would necessarily help.
I remember at 8th grade graduation the parents were clearly asked not to applaud or cheer when their child's name was called but wait until the end. It was reiterated after the first parent disregarded the request. A small but notable number of parents completely disregarded the request and yelled and clapped with gusto. Complete disrespect for "authority"
Many of those were parents of kids who were known to have been in trouble at some point. No wonder...
Yes..I read this article yesterday and couldn't decide whether to be horrified or pleased. I can't be comfortable seeing anyone charged for cheering for their kids, but I was very bothered by the disruption of my child's 8th grade graduation by parents who refused to listen to authority or play by the rules for the occasion.
Yes..I read this article yesterday and couldn't decide whether to be horrified or pleased. I can't be comfortable seeing anyone charge for cheering for their kids, but I was very bothered by the disruption of my child's 8th grade graduation by parents who refused to listen to authority or play by the rules for the occasion.
I felt exactly the same way about it.
Is this phenomenon really about bowing to authority, or is it about honoring our kids together, as a community? About behaving with common courtesy toward neighbors and friends, or disregarding the accomplishment of every child but one's own and behaving like a braying ass?
We saw identical behavior at middle school graduation and the vibe that came across was, This is our private reality TV show, we're the stars, the rest of you are just spectators.
That too -- well said
JCSO said:
Is this phenomenon really about bowing to authority, or is it about honoring our kids together, as a community? About behaving with common courtesy toward neighbors and friends, or disregarding the accomplishment of every child but one's own and behaving like a braying ass?
We saw identical behavior at middle school graduation and the vibe that came across was, This is our private reality TV show, we're the stars, the rest of you are just spectators.
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That's what you've gotten out of this thread? That people who let women get harassed are being bullied and being called overweight is the same as being racially harassed?
That makes as much sense as your earlier suggestion, namely that the women should get together and "beat the ***** out of their tormentors".
What was that about eliminating "all behaviors that cause people pain" again?
You're a bit all over the map